Living Wicked

Honest Tuesday’s: I am a Softie.

Dec 15, 2009 All Things Charli, All Things X, DUH, Family, Honest Tuesday's, Out with the Old Wicked in with the New Wicked, Parenting, Wicked MOMMY Wisdoms

Hello and welcome to Honest Tuesdays!

It has been brought to my attention (by me) that I have become soft in my old age.

I know. Shocking, isn’t it?

Remember how yesterday we talked about decisions? Well I had made a decision originally to deny Xavier of any and all things Christmas. No tree. Not a single decoration in my house. I hoped that Charli wouldnt know the difference … but I was totally wrong because this 2 year old is all about some Christmas and presents and Santa. As much as it hurt to the core to be the bad guy, I have reluctantly stuck to my guns, leaving me in a place where I am questioning my decision.

Am I being a bad mommy?!
Is he gonna hate me forever?!
Is this even going to get the point across?!
Am I the Grinch?! Officially?

I don’t want to be The Grinch! I love the holiday season. The lights, the feeling of giving love to another person. … all of it.

Not only that but I have had input from peanut galleries all across the world. One who’s opinion I value more than she knows.

Over a great deal of alcohol, she reminded me about what all of this was really about. Love. Sharing with the people who we love the most … tokens of our affection over the holidays. Yes, I will admit that she told me about myself. I had to pull myself out of my own stubbornness to see it, but she was right.

So…. this weekend, we are gonna get a tree. And we are gonna decorate it. Just the 3 of us. And, I am gonna put some presents under there. It wont be this big ordeal like it always has been, but we will keep the Christmas Eve pajama tradition … and … Xavier will have a couple of things from me under the tree this year.

Because this season is about love. And, as mad as I am at him … I love him more than I think he realizes.

As easy is it for me to say “fuggetabout” it about the holidays, I am doing my kids a disservice for being that way. I am not that mom. And, let’s face it. I am being fucking pouty and bitter and selfish and I need to knock it the fuck off.

So there. I was honest. 100%. Now it is your turn. What have you been less than honest about lately?

Also, do you have any Christmas traditions with your families?

Tags: christmas, christmas tree, honest tuesday, Parenting, presents, santa

Considerate Cheating, Etc.

Jun 1, 2009 Family, Fitness Forward, Friendship, Random, This Thing Called Marriage., love

My birthday weekend has come to an end. I didn’t plan on it turning into a weekend of celebrations in my honor, but some really great people surrounded me this weekend and I more than appreciate it.

Also, I shopped for Vegas.

And, I cheated.

I ate a cupcake. One that my son bought for me with his hard earned money.

I ate 3 bites of macaroni and cheese.

I ate a half of a piece of toast.

I ate a small amount of mashed potatoes.

And I only feel bad about the macaroni and cheese.

When D (cautiously) asked me what I wanted for my birthday dessert, I told him that I wanted strawberries and whipped cream. He asked me if I was sure and (of course) I totally was… so he went and found me the SB approved whipped cream.

I have such a newly considerate husband.

He never used to think about things like that before. As long as we had been together, he used to always forget to ask for no mayo on my burgers and sandwiches. He used to forget the drinks that I did or did not like. I learned to deal with it as best as I could, but deep down it bothered me to no end that my own husband, my supposed soul mate couldn’t even remember little things about me.

It all goes back to the little things. You may not think that him taking a moment to stop and find the Cool Whip that is SB approved is important, but I do. It means that he supports me. That he takes me seriously, and knows that as small of a gesture as it is… that it means the world to me.

All in all, it was a great birthday. Thanks to my friends who drank mimosas on Sunday, and all of the messages with Happy Birthday wishes that I recieved all day yesterday and today. I really feel special. And unconditionally loved.

Have a wonderful Tuesday!

(Feel free to share your progress)

What is your favorite birthday memory?
What is your favorite birthday cake?

Tags: birthday, birthday cake, friends, presents

My Sugar-Plums, or Theirs?

Dec 15, 2008 Parenting, Thoughts and Perceptions

Today, as I was buying pretty lingerie for the first time in 7 years I realized that Christmas is like a week and a half away. Yikes. I haven’t purchased a single present.

I will get back to the lingerie comment in a sec. I promise. Gawd.

Anyway.

We have been decorating and talking endlessly about Christmas… what to get the kids… budgeting… blah.

This year, X brought me his letter to Santa. He prided himself on the fact that he didn’t ask for too much this year. When we looked at the list, there were no toys! No freaking toys! What 8 year old leaves toys off of his Christmas list?!?

I am bent over this. B.E.N.T.

D finally got it out of me why I was so stressed out about his gifts. He asked for clothes and shoes. Nothing else! I want to see him open Leggos and G.I Joes, God damnit!The sappy mommy in me is crying out for her baby boy to stay a baby! But he is growing. So fast. Too fast. Too fast for me anyway.

Charli is an easy buy this year. She has discovered the love of all things crayola. So she will get an easel and an aquadoodle. And some blocks. Maybe a collector Barbie. Done. Soon though, she will have her own personalized letter to Santa, filled with all of her sugar plum wishes.

Of course I will pick out a couple of cute outfits for them and such, but really… I can go and buy them an outfit every payday if I wanted to. Those presents are fillers. The ones that count are the big gifts. The ones that make their eyes sparkle and do backflips around the living room.

Barbie’s DreamHouse and Easy Bake Oven’s.
Power Wheels and Hot Wheel Race Tracks.

That Red Ryder BB Gun!!!!!

Are toys becoming obsolete? Are our kids being brainwashed with portable video game consoles and DVD’s? What about board games? Puzzles? BOOKS!? I dont want to not get my kids what they ask for, but isnt it my duty as a parent to keep them grounded? To remind them that, as amazing as technology is… that there is more to life than the Nintendo DS?

It sucks being a parent sometimes. In no way am I out of touch with my kids’ and their growing generation, but sometimes I feel old fashioned. Like my expectations for what they should want totally overshadows the reality.

It is hard to find that balance. To not fully disappoint them, but not give them everything that they want either.

Thanks for listening.

What was the most memorable gift you ever recieved as a kid?
What was the one thing you asked for, and didnt get?
What is your Christmas shopping status to date? Done? Not even close?

Where do you stand on the shoulds and should nots when it comes to giving kids what they are asking for? How do you, or someone you know find that balance???

Oh. To hear more about the lingerie, I suppose you should read my blog tomorrow. *evil laugh*

Tags: barbie, christmas shopping, easy bake oven, hot wheels, Leggos, letter, mommy, power wheels, presents, red ryder BB gun, santa, sugar-plum, toys