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Mar 18, 2009 Relationships, Sex, Wicked Wisdoms

I scoured my old blogs on that one place I never log into anymore for a blog I wrote about twitterpation. I could not find it. That’s okay though… it just means I get to write a cooler, way more awesome blog on the topic.

Twitterpated
1)to be completely enamored with someone/something.
2) the flighty exciting feeling you get when you think about/see the object of your affection.
3) romantically excited (i.e.: aroused)
4) the ever increasing acceleration of heartbeat and body temperature as a result of being engulfed amidst the exhilaration and joy of being/having a romantic entity in someone’s life.

“When he smiled at her, the rush of warm, fuzzy, excited sensations that filled her made her realize she was completely twitterpated with this man.”

Spring is in the air. The birds are a’chirpin. The flowers are in bloom. I can see the sun peeking flirtatiously from behind that big, billowing cloud in the sky above me. With spring comes love. And babies. *squeeee* Folks who were shacked up by the fire, tryna keep warm and cozy were also makin’ babies!

(‘cept me. I <3 the invention of birth control)

As I was saying… most of you who know me and read my blogs are fully aware of the fact that I am in love with love. The smell of it. The taste of it. The swelling of 2 hearts simultaneously, making one big mushy pot of love stew.

Mmmmm… want a bite?

I know a couple of people who have found themselves in a big hot steaming pile of twitterpated.

One of these people is so over the moon that it is a wonder how she performs her normal daily tasks. She, like me, loves love. Like, loooooooooooooves it. In this  general situation, I am elated that she has quite possibly found someone who will quite probably see her for who she is and quite hopefully will love her wholly. She is twitterobsessed.

The other… well… she is a brat about twitterpation. I cannot put my finger on it, but something tells me that her adoration of all things swooning mushy love is way deeper than that of which she portrays to the people whom she interacts with. She brings up all of the reasons why she ‘isn’t and should not be twitterpated.’ She is in twitterdenial.

What is so interesting about these 2 hypothetically specific and totally random situations is the approach that each of them have about their feelings. This, the act of human behavior in similarly relatable situations of the heart is one of the main reasons why I am so interested in the therapy profession. Each of us feels a certain way about the SAME thing, but our specific feeling… the way we approach it and of course how we own it or push it away cannot be identical to another person.

It is like matters of the heart possess their own unique set of prints.

I can say that I have felt the EXACT same way as another person, but truth be told, I havent. Not exactly. Similarly yes… but a feeling or reaction cannot be mimicked to that specific degree.

So I am present in 2 hypothetically specific and totally random situations. (heh. These bitches are sooo going to kill me) I listen and provide awesomely witty banter when needed. What they probably weren’t aware of until now is that I am analyzing and processing and learning about the different reactions and motivations that each of us naturally possess. Hypothetically speaking of course. *snicker*

The conclusion that I have come to is that whether you are in twitterdenial or twitterobsession… it all boils down to the same thing. Love. It is a high that cannot be recreated with a chemical substance; meaning you cannot create a ‘love pill’ to feel the way you felt when you were first in love. You have to actually go through the motions in order to recieve your reward.

Love, as hard as it is… and as much as it sucks sometimes to fight for that love… Is the most rewarding feeling in the fucking world.

Oh and pee ess: I am not saying that the 2 totally hypothetical and generally specific friends above are in love. What I am saying is that to feel twitterpated can lead to love… and sometimes is mistaken for love… when really it is the high from finding someone to share a moment in your life with.

Like I hypothetically reminded each of them today… and I hope that some of you reading will take into consideration if it related/s to you at some point in your life is … the most important thing in the world is to remember that you cannot control the outcome of love… in any of its forms. You absolutely have to throw your hands up and allow what is meant to be to naturally take its course.

Because every heart-print is a lesson.

Have you learned any love-lessons recently, or know anyone who has?
What does being twitterpated mean to you? Are you twitterpated? What kind of twitterpated are you?
(If a bitch dares to mention that fucking WEBSITE ON MY BLOG…)
Do you have any hypothetical and generally specific friends that are going through something like this? What kind of twitterpated are they?

Tags: dating, girlfriend, hypothetical, love, making love, new relationship, Relationships, Sex, twitterpated

The Importance of Girlfriends

Jan 20, 2009 Friendship, Thoughts and Perceptions, Wicked Wisdoms

I have always been that one girl that had the bazillion guy friends, with maybe 1 or 2 girls that I rolled with regularly. Notice I didn’t refer to them as ‘friends’. This is because I have never had that core group of girlfriends in my life.

At least, not until now.

As a kid we moved. At least 1 time every year from 3rd grade until 9th grade so I never really had the opportunity to ever build and develop friend foundations with anyone, let alone females. We ladies are a territorial, catty bunch of bitches. It is hard to accept a new face into the close knit group that we are so used to sharing, gossiping, and crying with. Because of this, I have always been the odd girl out. The one who didn’t get the inside joke. The one who didn’t make it in group photos or on the list for the hottest slumber parties in the class. It used to hurt. I used to really feel bitter about the lack of girlfriend influence. Now, I see the blessing in it.

What is that, you ask?

I have watched several of my now besties lose childhood friends left and right within the past 2-5 years. Why? There are many many factors. I think that most often it is because we are different as adults then we were as tweens or teenagers.  Add husbands/partners and kids to the mix… and for the most part our paradigms shift. I haven’t really gone through this loss of history, at least not in the same way. The girlfriends I have in my life are (for the most part) already grown. They have found themselves and know what they want and who they want to experience with them. I feel this connection of common ground between us, where it would take a massive event… or an obstacle to really part our souls.

The blessing lies in that my girlfriends are going to be there when we are old and grey. We will be just as bitchy as we are now… and just as connected at the soul. I feel as if I have grown up with each of them… and indirectly I think I have. Even if we did not meet as children, or teenagers… We will grow old together. I prefer that to anything else.

Today is the eve of the anniversary of one of the most memorable life moments for me… and for a core group of my girlfriends. A year ago today we travelled from opposite corners of the country to celebrate our friend’s birthday. Some had never met, not even in email conversation. Some had connected on a special trip only months beforehand. Some had simply commented the occasional blog. Regardless of circumstance, we came together and formed a sister-ship. A Tribe, if you will.

Girlfriends in my life are important to me because they are there to tell me when I am being overdramatic. And when I need to yell to them… not AT them. They are important because sometimes I am too hard on myself and see myself in a horrible light; and they tell me the truth. My girlfriends are important because they truly love me for who I am. They do not put stipulations on me in order to be accepted. My girlfriends are beautiful. And amazing women. And wonderful human beings. They are funny and wonderful and I am thankful for each of them.

That weekend and this past weekend started my reflection of the importance of girlfriends. Deny it if you must, but the truth is we all need them. As much as I detest bitches in every size, shape and color… I love the ones that I love with my whole heart and soul. If you have a group of girlfriends, let them know you love them today… as well as every single day… because with out them, a sense of emptiness will consume you.

‘To find out a girl’s faults, praise her to her girlfriends.’
Franklin, Benjamin

Did you grow up with a core group of friends?
Are you still friends with any of them?
Have you gone through the ‘grow apart stage’?
Why are your girlfriends important to you?

Happy Birthday, Carol! I know I speak for all when I say that I wish I could be there to celebrate with you.

Tags: catty, children, Friendship, girlfriend, grow apart, grow old

Small Sacrifices: Are they worth making?

Sep 18, 2008 Relationships, Sex, Thoughts and Perceptions

Being married, I tend to get a flood of girlfriends and/or acquaintances who seek advice or a person to vent to about their current flings. Most of the advice seekers are looking for confirmation more than actual what-to-do’s regarding the penis provider.

I dont think it is because of the fact that I have been married for 8 years. I mean, I am sure that it has something to do with it, but I think it is more along the lines of my non-sugar coating ways. I dont ever beat around the advice bush when someone asks me my opinion, because… why lie? Why pad the truth? Most people get the fact by now that they just plain dont ask if they are looking for a lie response.

I dont have a feeling filter.

As I am sure that many have asked about my relationship, I find myself constantly asking myself why women put up with the jackasses that they have chosen to spend their time with. Maybe that is why I never ask for advice regarding my own relationship unless I really am stumped. I am aware of the fact that I have made my bed. There is no need to ask anyone to crawl under my drama covers and spoon me.

The fact is, you already know where the relationship is going to go if you have to second guess any decision you have made in the past.

What chaps my ass time and time again, are those who go into a relationship and then try to fix shit. Or, they expect that their new partner will begin to evolve. The quirks that were funny in the twitterpated stage are no longer that humorous. It is no longer cute to make jokes about all things ‘your relationship’.

Boys don’t always get that. Their transition into relationship mode is ofter slower and more of a pain in the ass than anything anyone could ever imagine. Boys unintentionally play games and push buttons and test boundaries.

Why? I don’t fucking know. The only penis I provide is the one I strap on. Otherwise, it is all vagina all the time. I enjoy possessing the pussy in the relationship. Pussy is power. . . But that is an entirely different blog within itself.

Moving on. I have advice for you ladies that are unsure what your next move is in the relationship you are currently in or getting ready to dive into in the near future. It may sting a little… but get the fuck over it.

1: If he is already engaged in the following, do not expect him to EVER give them up for you:
-Porn.
-Football, or any major sport for that matter.
-Guy’s Night of ANY sort.
-His boys. Even the ones that you hate.
-His mother.

2: If he does not take anything seriously before you commit, the likelyhood of him doing it after is very slim… to not at all.

3. He will not turn into a spontaneous romantic. He either has it, or he doesnt. You cannot get mad at him for not having that romantic bone.

4. There is no teaching a man to love to give oral.

Every single one of you out there out on the diving board of love need to understand something very important: In order for a relationship to work, and to be healthy in all aspects… You absolutely must learn to accept things about your partner that you cannot change. Because there are things that just will always remain.

Once you accept this fact in your life, you will find yourself at peace with who you are and what you need in a partner.

If you made a list of things that you would never sacrifice or change for any relationship… what would they be?
What things could you not live with in a relationship?
Have you had to end a relationship because of things that you could not accept about another person? Did you regret your decision?
Have you ever been dumped because of things that you were not willing to sacrifice for a person? Did you regret your decision?

Tags: boyfriend, change, dating, decsisons, games, girlfriend, love, marriage, new relationship, romantic, sacrifice, spontaneous