Honest Tuesday’s: Barely Naked

**WARNING: You might not want to read this if you know me know me. If you do, you are reading at your own risk.**

Me: “Knock it off. I feel like I should be grazing in the grass. Chewing on some cud or something.”
D: “What? No! You are sexy.”
Me: “I am NOT sexy.”
D: “You are sexy to me!”
Me: “But I am not sexy to ME.”

I swear to fuck this ^^^ conversation has become a regular one in my Wicked domain.

I hate this conversation. I hate the way it makes me feel when my own issue hurts the feelings of the other person who matters.

But I can’t help it. A million people could tell me how pretty I look or how sexy I am … but if I don’t feel it inside … it truly doesn’t matter what they say. I have to be the one to feel that way about myself. Yanno?

It is all in my head. I get it. It is my own issue. Mine. Not his. Not yours. Mine.

I wake up and am reminded of it. I immediately pull my shirt down that has ridden up maaaaybe 2 inches and twisted itself around me while I slept, peacefully snuggled in between a 3 year old, a kitten, a new puppy (that is not really a puppy he is 2 but I am not sure I like yet) and D.

The first thing I think about when I wake up is whether or not my stomach fat shows. In my own house. Who does that?

Personal hell? I think so.

It is stupid to feel this way. I know it is. I am sure that what I see is probably not as bad as what you see, but when I look in the mirror I am repulsed. Like throw up in my mouth repulsed.

So then it goes a little somethin like:

D: “Do you wanna do it?”
Me: “No!”
D: (insert disappointed face)
Me: (insert feeling like an asshole)

I cannot make myself want something I don’t want. And it isn’t even that I don’t want ‘it’ … I simply don’t want to see myself naked and I sure as hell don’t want anyone else to either. Not even D. And we have been together for 10 years.

Gah. It is affecting everything. I am that wife. The wife I swore to God I would never ever be. But I see it happening. It is like I am stuck inside a sound proof bubble watching the fat unmotivated me take over the world and I am completely powerless over it.

Me: “I am tired.”
Me: “I have a headache.”
Me: “I don’t feel good.”

To put it simply, I am uninspired and I hate it. My life isn’t even all fucked up. I really have absolutely nothing to bitch about and I am bitching anyway.

I am barely naked and that sucks because I really fucking LOVE being naked. !!!!

Fuck. Am I really even writing this?
Someone tell me to getthefuckoverit already.

Ready, set, GO!


(p.s. I am getting my shit back on track. I am paying attention to what I am eating and firmly reminding myself that a cheeseburger a day does NOT keep the DR. away. Also, I worked out tonight and it felt great. Now to make it a habit again. :) Ya Digg!?)

What inspires you?

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Oh The Places We Will Go!

I want to go. To places near and far and in between. I want to drive there. Fly there. Hike there. Float there on a boat there. I don’t care if I am in a tent or a hotel or a resort.

I just want to experience life from another cultures eyes.

Working in a place where I talk about vacations 8-10 hours a day makes me hungry to travel.

It isn’t like I am sheltered; I have seen a nice part of the world in my life. Traveling with the Navy allowed me the ability to see places I never ever would have thought to travel to.

I have been to Australia, Singapore, Dubai, Bahrain … Hong Kong …

But there are places that I absolutely must get to.

Sooner than later.

I started thinking about this when we were driving over the Pass, on our way to camping. We drove through the cutest city. I have lived here my entire life and have never been through the city of Leavenworth.

Driving through, I have decided, I must make it there. Repeatedly. It is a Bavarian town filled with things like brats and good beer and blackberry ice cream. It is quaint and (from what I hear) an experience. All of the signs (even the MacDonald’s) are painted to go with the Bavarian theme. I was completely trippen when we drove through. I wish we had time to stop.

(insert trip planning here)

I must go to Europe. For a month at least. I want to see Germany and Italy and Spain and England.
I must (thanks to PQ) go to Turkey.
I must spend at least 2 weeks in Bora Bora. In an over water bungalow.

I must take my kids to Disneyland. And on a Disney cruise.
I must take my kids (Xavier specifically) to Washington DC. He is super in to the Presidents.
I must spend at least a week in NYC so I can go to as many Broadway shows a girl can handle before living her life as if she herself was in a musical.
I must visit New Orleans. Once for Mardi Gras and Once not for Mardi Gras.
I must go to South America.
I must go to Honduras.
I must take D to Hawaii and the Caribbean.

I want to scuba dive. And snorkel. I want to hike up historical mountains. I want to dip in hot springs and stand behind waterfalls. I want to skydive and take pictures of my kids in front of monuments.

I think I will buy a world map and some fun thumbtacks so that we as a family can mark the places we have all been together. I will not scrapbook it, but I *will* have photo album upon photo album with our snapshots stuffed to the brim inside.

Our memories. My little family of 4 will travel together until it turns into a family of just us 2 back into a family of more than 4 when my kids have families of their own. We will create traditions and rituals. And we will look forward to our Christmas Eve’s and summer getaways.

As I have gotten older, I have grown less fond of material things to make me happy. (Don’t get me wrong, a sexy pair of stilettos get me riled the fuck up …) What I am finding makes me more happy more frequently is giving my kids the gift of experiencing life. I will continue to give them that as much as I possibly can because it is something that I did not get a great deal of as a kid.

I happen to think that, if possible … giving the gift of experiencing life … is one of the most important gifts that can ever be given to another individual.

What places will you go?
What places have you already been?
Best vacation ever?
Dream vacation?

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Anniversary Trip FTW!

Happy Monday!

I am home and able to sit down and write about my mini-impromptu-childless anniversary trip.

I felt refreshed until my kids got here and started back in to the fighting ways that siblings do. (boo hoo why wasn’t our trip longer or forever?)

I joke! (or do I?)

Anyway … our trip was pretty freaking cool. I don’t know why I am just now really discovering CraigsList… but I am and I am loving it.

Discovery 1: A beautiful room on the sound equipped with a mini fridge, microwave and a spectacular view from the balcony … $65 a night. (I know right? What is the catch? None actually.) I searched under “Vacation Rentals” because I wanted to surprise D with a night away. We both needed it. Badly.

It is a privately owned home with extra bedrooms that are rented out by the owners. Annette and Dick were more than hospitable and wonderful and I hope to have the opportunity to stay there again in the very near future. D and I were talking about spending a night there when it is rainstorm season. I am sure it will be just as beautiful as when the sun is shining … in a totally different way.

The property has history which Dick explained to us while giving us the tour.

It had it’s own private entrance and the deck was private as well. I was instantly relaxed and felt right at home. It is crazy to not feel that weird “I am not in my own space” adjustment period. We really just exhaled and began to enjoy each other’s company.

The thing I love most about my husband is our ability to talk. We have been entertaining ourselves for over 9 years now and I can completely see us entertaining ourselves for another 99. He makes me laugh more than he makes me cry … at least more now than ever … and I really cannot imagine spending this much time with anyone else.

So … there really isn’t much to do in Anacortes, WA. *GASP* I know. I didn’t really plan it for an elaborate activity filled evening so it worked. We left for a couple of hours just to be out in our gorgeous weather. We went to the water and walked around, looked at some beautiful boats, and then found a really amazing ice cream shop. Dessert before dinner FTW!!!

After, it was time for our inside picnic and for me to smack D around in Dominoes.

Heh. (I let him win one time to be nice.)

One thing that was not awesome … but probably happened for a reason … was the TV not working. We were both looking forward to laying in bed and watching a movie or SNL but the remote to the DISH literally died while we were using it and then DISH shut off completely. The owners were trying so hard to fix it; they even called DISH at 9 at night to figure something out for us, but there was nothing anyone could do. The remote had to be replaced.

D and I had come to grips with the issue being what it was well before they called to fix it, and to be perfectly honest, we weren’t there for the TV … you know? Prior to them trying to come and fix it, we were completely content listening to music and chatting away. After she got off the phone, Annette tried to refund me money. It was the right thing to do for her to offer it, but I wouldn’t hear of it.

How tacky of me to accept money back from these amazing people over something that really had no negative effect on our trip.

Of course D said “I would have taken it!” but I quickly reminded him that that it was 1) tacky and rude and 2) not something that you ever do in this situation. A Motel6? Absofuckinglutely. But not kind people who open their home up to strangers. Absolutely not.

Anyway, D and I decided we wanted munchies. We forgot sweets and were without anything to satisfy that sweet tooth, so we ventured to the store.

When we came back, there was a note and a gift at the bottom of the stairs up to our room.

It basically thanked us for being so understanding about the TV, and that she works with glass … and wanted to give us (me) an anniversary present. It is a beautiful handmade necklace that I am in love with.

D looked at me and said, “I get it now.”

This gesture touched me. It is something that not a lot of people understand or even think of doing because they are so self consumed and distracted by stupid things all of the time.

Small gestures mean something. I will hold on to this necklace until forever because it was a thoughtful gift from a thoughtful woman who genuinely cared about a 100% perfect anniversary trip for D and I. Even though it was something so stupid to us that happened during our stay, it meant something to her.

I have said this before and I will continue to say it until I am blue in the face I swear to God.

We as a society of human beings are missing these key aspects of humanity. Caring, selflessness, understanding, compassion … common courtesy. There aren’t many people in the world left like Annette and Dick it seems like and that bothers me.

Just like I said in my last blog; I cannot change the world … but I sure as hell can make a valiant effort to be a more compassionate human every single day.

Thanks, Annette and Dick, we hope to see you again soon. <3

Finish this sentence: “I cannot change the world … but I _____ “

P.S. If you are ever in need of a quiet amazing get away … email me. I will give you the contact information to check availability where we stayed.

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Ohhhh Yeahhhh … YGWM & Friday MFING Eye Candy!!!

Happy Friday!

OMG I am so glad to be back on my weekly Friday open letters!

Are you?!

Dear D,

Yes you ruined my day by using all of the chocolate syrup and not letting me know the umpteenth million store trips that we were out so I could pick more up. The ONE time I want vanilla ice cream with cinnamon toast crunch and chocolate syrup in like 3246734 months and we are out of the KEY ingredient.

Day ruiner.

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Dear Snake,

I know you are a snake. You slither around like you are so fucking slick but I hear you rattling your snakey fucking tail around trying to get in good with people. They might not see your snakey self … all wolf and sheeps clothing styles … but I do.

You aint slick homey.

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Dear You,

I win. ALWAYS.

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Dear Squishy,

I just wanted to reiterate that I am so happy for you and Irish and that I am so excited to watch your marriage grow. (the fun and the not so fun. I am sadistic like that. ;) )

There isn’t enough happiness in the world for your level of deserving happiness. Just saying.

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Dear Kimmie and Tarable,

I am so happy that you are my besties.

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Dear Bradley Cooper,

I would fuck you sideways, upside down, and inside out. I just thought you should know.

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Dear Charli,

You are such a beautiful girl. A funny, loving, beautiful girl with so much personality. I just wish you were not such a demanding, bratty, bossy boots. Let’s work on that, k?

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Dear X,

We are gonna make this work. However possible. I am gonna figure it out.

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And now for some Eye Candy …

Rugby Player Gavin Henson. YUM. Do you SEE this body?!

And Ms. Katarina Van Derham. She is the spokes model for St. Pauli’s Girl. Hi. Hottie.

Alright peeps. You know the drill. Come purge your week in open letter forum so that you can thoroughly enjoy your weekend! Go! Let em have it!

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The One Where I Feel Like An Asshole.

Sup?

Oh, and to switch it up a little …

Hey YOU!

Heh.

Anyway. This is the one where I feel like an asshole because I do and this is why.

For the past couple of years I have given myself a horrible reputation with D about misplacing my wedding ring. Not “misplacing” meaning I took it off at some random schmucks house and left it there “misplacing” … more like, I was hammered after the bar took off all of my jewelry including my wedding ring and forgot where I put it “misplacing”.

Get it?

Yeah. I am forgetful. I am aware of it. I forget conversations I have with Tarable from last Tuesday. It happens. Give me a break.

The bottom line is, my random “misplacements” are not on purpose and I freak the fuck out about it because I love the hell out of my wedding ring.

Or love (ed) it anyway.

The story begins on day 5 of no sleep in Austin. I am packed and ready to fly home to my family and work and life in Seattle. I averaged approximately 3-4 hours of sleep each night I was there, so if you are not aware of my need for MINIMUM of 7 hours to function properly… you might not fully grasp the level of delirious exhaustion that had begun to encompass my entire body.

I. Was. Done.

So I get to the airport, find a chair closest to the gate and pass the fuck out. To the point where I almost missed boarding. A nice gentleman woke me up after my name was called THREE times to make sure that I was not missing the final boarding call. I scramble to grab my crap and get my ass on the plane. I am pretty sure that I am still mostly asleep because 1) I passed the fuck back out and 2) I barely remember this happening.

As we were landing in Denver I woke up and was finally a part of civilization. At that point I looked down at my hand and realized … holy fuck where is my wedding ring?

Rewind the tape.

When I got to the airport, I realized that my hands were mfing swollen. Lack of water will do that to a bitch, especially when the most liquid consumed over the 5 day span was alcohol … my wedding ring was digging into my ring finger. It barely came off when I moved it to my pinkie.

My ring fell off at the terminal. Fuck. Really?

*insert me feeling like an asshole right.about.here*

I dug through my bag frantically. I checked my pockets, my boobs … (dont judge … I have stored many a valuable in my boobs okay?) I checked under the seats on the plane, hoping that it fell off there and not back in Austin. No luck.

My ring was gone. And it was totally my bad.

When I exited the plane, I immediately went to the SW ticket counter to see if they could call the airport and have them look. I was praying that someone picked it up and turned it in. The guy at the ticket counter knew I was an asshole by the way he looked at me.

“How could you ever have lost your wedding ring?”
His wedding ring on his finger scolded me so tough that day. I wanted to snatch it off of his sausage finger and chuck it across the airport for taunting me so badly.

No one found it. was a human being with feelings and understanding of sentiment to do the right thing and turn my ring in.

I have mostly come to grips with the fact that it is gone, but a huge part of me hopes every morning that someone will call me and tell me that they have it and that they need an address to send it to.

It has been 10 days of nothing even resembling that call.

So I have to come to grips with the fact that I am an asshole and that my ring is gone. It hurts my feelings so bad that my ring finger is naked and I have no clue as to when I will be able to replace it with a ring that means just as much to me if not more than the one that is now probably sitting at a pawn shop all lonely and missing my finger as much as my finger misses it.

:(

Have you ever lost something sentimentally valuable? Did you get it back?
Also, a question from D: “When is it acceptable to ask for oral from your partner, if ever?”

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I Do!

I remember as an adolescent and even up until Squishy asking me to be one of her bridesmaids always wanting to have an opportunity to stand beside a good friend and support their decision to vow to love and honor another human being.

I remember watching movies about weddings; and seeing the importance of being asked to participate.

You know that part in the movies about so’n’so getting married where someone flys in from out of town to celebrate and it’s all super exciting?!?!?

I was that girl! Gooooo me!

Some people may not understand why being in a wedding is so important. To me. To anyone for that matter. Maybe it isn’t super important to anyone *but* me.

Whatever.

I have been married twice. Both times were not exactly what I expected, due to age and lack of appreciation of anything sentimental … Annnnd I have been to a fair number of weddings.

Most of them were watching a good GUY friend tie the knot so the relationship with the other half was budding or non-existent. The ones that were my girlfriends were usually situations where their bridesmaids were professed in the 2nd grade while they played barbies or some crap.

I don’t have very many old friends like that so it isn’t really surprising or upsetting that Squish’s wedding is my first.

I dunno where I am going with this… Or of it makes any sense… It is 6am and I am waiting for my flight back home to Seattle. I am sleep deprived, and sad that I have to leave all of my ladies until further notice so I am attempting to process the most important parts first.

I guess what I am windedly and exhaustedly attempting to say is that for someone who believes in true love the way I do, the sentiment behind standing beside one of my closest friends and watching them vow to love their souls counterpoint forever and ever runs deep with me. It is a feeling that cannot be replaced, nor can it ever efficiently be described in blog form.

True love is hard to find, and when you do find it, it is even harder to keep. It means fighting for it when you are exhausted. It means unconditionally accepting the other person for who they are. It means letting go of hangups and allowing the other person to see you. Really *see* you.

True love is rare these days. Maybe that is why standing next to it in a pretty blue dress on a party barge with BBQ, house music and bubbles is so God damned important to me.

Congrats Squishy & Irish!! I will always support and repect your love as long as you give it the same repect and support.

It is boarding time. Back to the real world. Good-bye Austin!

(more on my trip to come)

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Petty FTW!

Apparently, I am petty. :o )

I am perfectly okay with it when it is an innocent pettiness. Not sure what I mean?

Last night, D and I were in discussion about seriousness and shit.

(i.e.)

Me : “turn that mothereffing light off!”
D : “how am I going to see what lotion to use at the right time?”
Me : “really?!?!”

Anyway, we were chatting about how spoiled Charli is and how easy Xavier was at his age. (I swear that child was born with an auto pilot switch.)

I was making the point (FTW might I add) that Charli was spoiled from conception and that if her didn’t already know, she, like me will always simply do it the way she wants. Whatever you say to deter her from doing it will only solidify the nail in the coffin of her doing it her way.

Case in point? Moi.

Me: “look. You might as well get used to having 2 bitches in your life that just do what they wanna do. Because she is as god damned defiant as I am only she is 2 years old.”
D: “you are pretty defiant.”
Me: “duh. The trick is to make her think that *she* is the one actually making the decision.”
D: (nothin because DUH this convo is a WIN for me and he no likey when I win)
Me: “like in the kitchen when you try and look over my shoulder and give me cooking tips. I don’t need your input. I am gonna stir clockwise if that is what I wanna do. Even if you think counterclockwise is the more efficient way.”
D: (laughing)
Me: ” or like when you try and tell me to go a certain way because *you* think it is the faster or better way. I am not gonna go that way.”
D: “why not? If it is faster?”
Me: “doesn’t matter. If I concede and go your way then you win. You already win too much. I gotta get in where I fit in.”
D: “you bitch.”
Me: “yep. That is how my brain operates.”
D: “that is so petty. And stubborn. You go through all of that *just* to win?”
Me: “yep. And now there are 2 of us.”
D: “welcome to the jungle.”

*fist pump @ this blog* because it is awesome.

What is your favorite 80’s song?
Do you remember the first music video you ever watched?

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Wicked Random

Happy Monday!

This is gonna be short and sweet because I am tired.

Today you get a list of Wicked thoughts.

1) I am SO fucking excited to cut my hair tomorrow. Yes I will post pics.

2) I have come to some pretty important conclusions about some people in my life over the past few days. That being said, I am making the decision to change my approach.

3) Speaking of changes, I can feel some changes coming. I am unsure what is gonna change. At least as of now.

To be continued…

4) Responsibilities suck sometimes.

5) I am proven repeatedly that everything happens for a reason. I wonder when I will start having faith in that.

6) I am oddly excited about turning 31.

7) Speaking of excited, I am also excited about the following things:

*Squish’s wedding
*Summertime
*Victoria to see MissTricky
*The gym
8) My sex drive has been non-existent lately. WTF is that about?

9) Law Abiding Citizen is a great movie. I would fuck the hell out of both Jamie Foxx AND Gerard Butler.

10) I wish I had a puppy.

Tell me the high and low of your weekend.
What movie have you seen recently that was awesome? Not so awesome?
What kind of puppy would you own?

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YGWM & No Eye Candy

Happy Monday Peeps!

Welcome to Friday! Sorry in advance for the fact that there is no Eye Candy. I am blogging from my phone and I haven’t had time to save pictures.

So. Close your eyes and imagine your own favorite eye candy. Word?

Alright. You know the drill. Purge your week in open letter form so you can thoroughly enjoy your weekend.

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Dear Sacrifices,

Fuck you for being so harsh. For being unexpected and stupid and expensive.

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Dear FatWicked,

You are on your mfing way out the door.

Byefattie! Bye!!

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Dear Responsibilities,

FINE!!!!!!!

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Dear D,

Mama’s proud. You are doing so well. Even with the tough times, you really are trying to remain optimistic. I love you.

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Dear Self,

You are getting there. Stop focusing on the negative.

These credits don’t sell themselves, so you must be doing somethin’ right.

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Dear Asshole,

Hahahahahaahhahaahahahahaha you are sooooooo stupid. So so so so stupid. Like, sooooooooooooooooooooo.fucking.stupid.

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Dear You,

FuuuuuckOfffffffff.

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Dear Dipshit Co-Worker,

No one cares to talk to you THAT much about NO. If you liked it THAT much, then move there. K?

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Alright. You go. Handle your business.

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Mum’s The Word

I am tired and cranky and stressed and chaotic. I don’t have much to say that I haven’t already said eleventy million times, so clicky over to In It To Gym It and read some of the kick ass posts on healthy living, weight loss, etc etc.

In It To Gym It

You might find that you learn a little bit. Just saying.

Also I am counting the days until June. What is in June? you ask all impatient-like.

Well. I am glad you asked.

1) June is my birthday … which means that
2) June is Marilyn Monroe’s birthday … it also means that in
3) June I am going on a very special trip to a very special place for a very special reason … where I will share the month of
4) June with one of my sisters and soon to be brother for their
5) June wedding anniversary. Another June wedding anniversary would be
6) Henrysan’s and he also is a Gemini which is double awesome.

Furthermore, June is mostly the month of Gemini business. Gemini’s rule, the rest of you other horiscopers drool except for Aquarius’s and Aries’s and Scorpio’s because

1) D is an Aquarius and he controls the pehnis … and also
2) Carol is an Aquarius (they share the same b-day) … and she is a mom and
3) So is Rachael and she is not only an Aquarius but she is also a mom and
3) My mom is an Aries and she birthed me … so I have to give her props just like
4) Tara is a Scorpio and I ride with her to work every day so if she doesn’t get a mention then she might punch me in the eye.

Don’t get all butthurt if you didn’t get an astrological shout out. Even my kids were excluded. Annnnnnd my dad. So geoverit. K? K.

That is that. Except that:

1) I am hosting an ONLINE ONLY Tupperware party and would love it if you at least looked at the products offered. If you
2) attend, you get an entry in the raffle for the host gift and credit (that is earned if the party is big enough) and
3) if you purchase, you get another entry in the raffle and of course
4) if you refer someone you get yet ANOTHER entry in the raffle and last but not least
5) if your referral purchases products, you not only get another entry in the raffle, but you get to pick 1 item (up to $25 in value) absolutely free!

Interested? What is the worst that could happen? You RSVP yes, and then win some free shit. Wow. So tough. Email me if you wanna play or if you have peeps who wanna play. K? K.: wickedcourtni@gmail.com annnnnnnnd my online website

What is your sign? Are the readings about your sign accurate?
Are you a Tupperware virgin? If not, what is your favorite Tupperware product?

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