Whatever Happened to Wednesday’s: True Friendship
Mar 2, 2010 Completely Hypothetical and Generally Specific, Family, Friendship, Out with the Old Wicked in with the New Wicked, Whatever Happened to? Wednesdays
Happy Hump Day folks, and welcome to Whatever Happened to Wednesday’s!
Today, my WeHtW’s post has little to do with me and more to do with my own observations.
The reason why is because I have already flushed my non-true friends down the figurative toilet.
It is hard to let friends go. Especially when you have a history with them. It is hard to swallow the fact that someone who you once thought you would end up an old bitty with … may have a different path than you.
But it is life.
The thing that bothers me the most is when people … adults … behave like children in the friendships.
Judgment
2 faced behavior
Conditions
Unrealistic expectations
Lies
Non existent communication
I could go on forever.
The point is that I have found that rarely (with females specifically) do childhood friendships go the long haul. I know many will argue that my view is not accurate. “I have been friends with SonSo for 2367845 years” blah blah blah.
I get it.
There ARE friendships that have gone the long haul. The difference is that each person in that friendship have grown together in the friendship. Both parties have become adults. And in adulthood, they have grown to accept the other person for all of their imperfections and flaws. It is similar to a marriage. When any relationship goes the long haul, there are kinks and bumps and hiccups.
You don’t just smile through them. Sometimes you knock down drag out whoop each others asses to get through it. Period.
One thing that I will say about each of my TRUE friendships is that each and every one of them have just embraced me for me and I have done the same. It may have taken an argument or 2 to get there … but if we made it through the last 5 years and remained friends … you and I will be lifelong.
I am not a judger. I may fucking loathe whatever the decision is that my friend is making … but you know what? It is not my decision to make. I am gonna love and stand by. I am gonna listen, and you can bet your ass when the bitch finally gets the clue I am gonna tell her about herself on some “I told your ass so” shit when she figures it out for herself. That is what a true friend does.
I am a true friend to my friends. I always will be. But I am not perfect, and I do not expect my friends to be perfect either. Unless awesome = perfect. Because all of my friends are awesome.
I am flaky sometimes. I forget to call you back. I am over extended and sometimes unable to manage my time well. I am selfish sometimes. But there isn’t a time where I would not bend over backwards if my friend needed me to be there. There isn’t a time where I wouldn’t give them my last god damn dollar if I knew my friend needed it more than I did.
It really hurts me to see a friend lose a friend. Almost as much as if I were the one losing the friend myself.
I just wish that each were able to fully step out of their own shoes and into the others. Most of the time, each have valid points in the hurt that they hold in their hearts … but that hurt can be blinding. Blinding to the point that the communication between friends goes down the toilet.
That usually is where The End fits.
I am quite confident that I have closed the book on all of the friendships that were dead weight on my life. It is a good feeling to know that I am finally surrounded by people who get it and me.
What are your thoughts on friendship?
Have you kept any friends from childhood? Are they more friends or acquaintances?
If you could be a crayon, What color and Why?
Tags: Friendship, high school, honesty, love, truth
March 2nd, 2010 at 23:12
I have lost many a friend over the years due to childish behavior on both sides. It happens. People grow apart, especially when they aren’t willing to work it out. I have no friends from childhood. I have aquaintances from high school, but that’s it.
As for the crayon, Id be aquamarine cuz its a pretty color
LivingWicked Reply:
March 3rd, 2010 at 23:36
I like aquamarine. And you.
Amy Reply:
March 4th, 2010 at 06:06
Well thanks. I like you too
March 3rd, 2010 at 00:46
I’m kind of going through the whole process now, wondering whether or not some very old friendships are going to be able to be maintained. I have reached a point where I am sick to death of being the only one to reach out and make an effort, the only one who bothers to try and get us all together for a catch upm it just became exhausting. So I decided to let it lie, and apart from the odd contact on facebook I haven’t really heard from them since October last year…
I have one friend from Childhood, we grew up together, our parents were friends before either of us were even an idea but most of mny friends are from High School .. although most are now settled overseas, but I do keep in touch with them and I still consider them friends.
I’m related to most of my closest friends though… my Sister is the person I am closest to in the world and my best friend. My Stepfathers cousin is another of my closest, most inner circle.
Crayon colour – Magenta just cos I love it….
LivingWicked Reply:
March 3rd, 2010 at 23:37
I <3 Magenta.
March 3rd, 2010 at 05:39
What are your thoughts on friendship? I pretty much can get along with anyone in this world…self-absorption is really the only reason I let friends go…I have drifted away from way too many people….but this only shows to me that the friendship wasn’t strong to begin with.
Have you kept any friends from childhood? yes, I have two friends that I have known since grade school
Are they more friends or acquaintances? they are some of my BEST friends….
If you could be a crayon, What color and Why? Burnt Sienna…cause it doesn’t get used much…and I’d want to stay ‘new’
LivingWicked Reply:
March 3rd, 2010 at 23:38
You are such a great friend. I just hope you know that.
March 3rd, 2010 at 07:53
I still talk to some of my childhood friend occasionally. My best friend from 2nd grade inadvertently found my twitter so we’ve been hanging out again too, but I don’t think that really counts since we didn’t see each other for about 17 years in between.
I want to be green. Bright green.
LivingWicked Reply:
March 3rd, 2010 at 23:38
Like neon green?
March 3rd, 2010 at 09:21
Its hard to let go of a friendship. I ask myself time and time again “is this person worth my energy and time” and sometimes use that exact excuse that “we have been friends for so long” I keep saying, next time she treats me like this, I’m done. There always seems to be a next time.
If I were a crayon I’d want to be blue. Blue makes me happy.
<3
LivingWicked Reply:
March 3rd, 2010 at 23:38
What blue?
Lauren Reply:
March 4th, 2010 at 07:30
turquoise blue. I LOVE it.
March 3rd, 2010 at 10:35
What are your thoughts on friendship?
Friendships to me are like an ocean of opportunities…. there are lots of fish in the ocean hence the opportunites to form new and lasting friendships.
Have you kept any friends from childhood?
Yes… I have friends from Head Start all the way up until now.
Are they more friends or acquaintances?
Most are still friends… But I am that glue that holds things together. Letters, emails, texts, meetings, outings, lunches, dinners, movies… I arrange those.
If you could be a crayon, What color and Why?
I would be the Non-Toxic type… I may not be the prettiest color in the box, but I do fit in there.
LivingWicked Reply:
March 3rd, 2010 at 23:39
You are one of the best friends I have.
March 3rd, 2010 at 13:28
I’m a lot like you I think. I have several friends who are dear to me, and by now are more like sisters. We know each other and love each other, faults and all. I’m all about adding people to my collection- but it takes a good while and at least one good fight to get there.
LivingWicked Reply:
March 3rd, 2010 at 23:39
One good fight for sure. I gotta make sure you can hold your own.
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