The Significance of Ice Cream
Apr 2, 2009 All Things X, Relationships, Sex, This Thing Called Marriage., Thoughts and Perceptions, Wicked Wisdoms, love
This started off differently.
I was fighting with D when I finally got a chance to blog this evening.
I hate it when we fight. I hate that he is right more than I am. (I will only admit this to you.) I hate that he has the ability to make me feel so small with a simple statement. At the same time, I hate that I say hurtful things. But sometimes, when I get angry… They just fall out of my mouth like marbles.
Especially when I feel attacked.
Then, as I laid here in the dark spewing randomosity in the form of a blog-list, (which is what I do when I don’t have anything of substance to blog about but I feel like I should be blogging) he appeared in the doorway to our bedroom.
“I come in peace.” He said.
In his hands he held a scoop of chocolate chip ice cream. Just 1 scoop. In a pretty pink and white cardboard cup with a matching pink plastic spoon.
*sigh*
What is so significant about the ice cream?
There are 2 reasons why it is so thoughtful:
1) Chocolate Chip is the only ice cream that I really like, and not very many brands sell it. If they do, it really isnt very good.
2) When I was pregnant with Xavier, D would bring me a scoop of Baskin Robbins chocolate chip ice cream every night after work. We were literally dirt poor because we lived in a small military town… so while he was looking for a job, he would get up at 5 am and go to Labor Ready, even if it brought just enough money for gas and dinner.
It doesn’t even matter what he said or why I got mad. What matters is that when it is time to say “I’m sorry”, he knows exactly what to do to melt the icy, silent exterior around my heart. Not many people really know how to do that.
It seems silly to some but these little things are precisely why I married him.
I have never been the girl who needed dozens upon dozens of roses, or lavish gifts from the person I love. I just need a little token. A thoughtful gesture that says everything I need to hear at that moment.
Anyway, all of the sarcasm and jokes aside… he is the jelly to my peanut butter. I am truly blessed to have such a funny, sexy, doesn’t-put-up-with-my-shit and thoughtful husband…
Our love is hands down the reason why I believe in true love as much as I do.
Happy Friday!
What is the most romantic “little thing” that you have done for someone you love?
Has anyone done a thoughtful “little thing” for you?
Tags: argument, baskin robbins, chocolate chip, fight, ice cream, labor ready, little thing, love, make-up, marriage, Relationships, right, romance, sarcasm, thoughtful, token, wrong
April 2nd, 2009 at 22:34
yep.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:19
April 2nd, 2009 at 22:36
that is truly beautiful. i can only hope someday..i meet someone like that for me..
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:19
Me too. You deserve it.
April 3rd, 2009 at 02:08
It is the small gestures that matter most to me too.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:20
That doesnt surprise me one bit.
April 3rd, 2009 at 03:10
Wow Court, I actually got tears in my eyes!!! You really are perfect for each other. ♥
Hope one day I find someone with a spine. I know you get that 100%.
Loves.
Lisa Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 03:13
One more thing. As soon as I left this page I saw this…….
Head to your neighborhood Baskin-Robbins® for 31 Cent Scoop Night on Wednesday, April 29th
from 5 to 10 P.M. in honor of the National Volunteer Fire Council (NVFC) National Junior Firefighter
Program. Participating stores will reduce prices of small ice cream scoops to 31 cents*.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:20
Where did you find that? D is gonna pee his pants!
Lisa Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 19:42
My dorky ass belongs to their birthday club, so they send me emails for stuff like this. : )
beau Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 12:55
lol. omg hes so busted.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 12:58
hahahaha he is gonna eat them out of business.
April 3rd, 2009 at 04:20
I’m glad you have someone that gets you and I’ll leave it at that!!
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:21
April 3rd, 2009 at 04:23
awwwww D! I love the way you write about your husband- he drives you nuts but you absolutely could not love him the way you do if he didn’t. Cheers to you two!
I can’t wait til the Prez has to do something to make up with me…….
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:21
I bet he does something amazing. After he does something stupid.
Then the sex. Make-up sex rules.
April 3rd, 2009 at 05:45
Just lovely
I’m glad you got a good one!
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LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:21
Thanks! I am glad too. HA HA HA!
April 3rd, 2009 at 05:47
Gunny and I aren’t very good at making up/conflict resoltion. His patterns are to let me stew or be angry until I get over it. Apologies are rare as he doesn’t like to admit that he might be wrong or that there might be a different perspective that is just as good as his own. His stems way back to his upbringing and if he would go to counseling with me, he would see that. But when we are getting along and life is good, he sees no need for it. And when we aren’t he doesn’t acknowledge that the problem is anything but my own.
But at least now he asks me before he re-enlists for the Army.
THis sounds worse written down than when I live it. I guess I have just accepted it for what it is.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:23
It works for you. Not everything stupid that D does has a scoop of ice cream attached to it… you know?
And he does a great deal of dumb shit on a daily fucking basis.
The bottom line is that you love each other. The rest is what it is.
April 3rd, 2009 at 05:49
I gave a girl a jar of rocks once, and no they definitely weren’t diamonds.
One of the first times we were together she found a rock with a ring around it (In some Native American cultures stones with rings around them were considered good luck totems). When ever we went someplace, or I was away somewhere on business, I would hunt around for at least one stone with a ring.
I had a jar of them saved up by her birthday and gave them to her. She started crying when I gave them to her and other people thought it was cause I was such an ass for giving her a bunch of rocks.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:23
That is the god damn sweetest thing I think I have ever read. Or at least read in a long time.
You are a catch my friend.
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:16
Awwww. The way you write about your realtionship makes me want to believe in love again. You’re so in love with love that it’s contagious…I just need to get off the antibiotics…
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LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:24
You should believe in love again, dammit!
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:38
OK…I will admit that when I started to read this, especially the first paragraph, I was a tad concerned…and then I finished reading.
Court, everyone argues in a relationship. Arguing about stupid little things, and knowing they are stupid, and being mature enough to admit our own faults is what we in my profession like to call….NORMAL
It’s when the fighting ends, and there isn’t any kind of communication between you, or when the only time you do communicate is to say, “Fuck you! Your sister’s a whore!” is when you need to worry.
As for your questions, “What is the most romantic “little thing” that you have done for someone you love?”
I would have to say….lifting the Restraining Order.
“Has anyone done a thoughtful “little thing” for you?” YES!
**sigh** he finally stopped blowing that annoying little Rape Whistle….**I have to go…I’m all verchlempt…**
Happy Friday, Bizznatches!!
MUAH!
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LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:42
You are SUCH a shit head. HAHAHAHAHAHA!
I love you.
And yeah, it is normal. I just get frustrated as all hell with his ass. And his face.
LindaLou Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:47
I hear ya, sista!
Make-up Sex is the reason frustration in a relationship exists…. ; )
Love ya, right back!
♥
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LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 08:51
It really is. Sometimes I start fights JUST to get the make-up sex.
April 3rd, 2009 at 09:14
It doesn’t seem silly AT ALL. This…
“What matters is that when it is time to say “I’m sorry”, he knows exactly what to do to melt the icy, silent exterior around my heart. Not many people really know how to do that.”
is EXACTLY why I know B and I will be together until one of us finally croaks. (Never say I’m not a romantic!)
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LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 09:55
!!!!
Another reason why I <3 me some LiLu.
April 3rd, 2009 at 09:57
*swoon*
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 10:03
<3
April 3rd, 2009 at 12:56
In the end, it’s only the little things that matter, anyway.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 12:57
So true my friend. So true.
April 3rd, 2009 at 15:33
Haha! Last night we kinda bickered about a bag of peanut M&M’s (the secret message being I was an asshole and I didn’t like that). Tonight he thinks I’ve stopped being mad at him over a toddler scare because I smiled about our son in his presence.
I absolutely get the importance of ice cream but I’m not “there” enough to say much more.
LivingWicked Reply:
April 3rd, 2009 at 15:39
ahhhh… you gotta love it when the assumption is that things are okay, even though WE know that they are not. HA HA HA
April 3rd, 2009 at 18:10
awww that is so amazing!!
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April 4th, 2009 at 04:33
Aww. Good job, D.
The most romantic thing I ever did wasn’t anything specific. But I am a romantic.