Paparazzi Piranha’s in the Heat of Passion
Feb 27, 2009 Current Events, Ranteriffic, Relationships, Sound Off/Debate, Thoughts and Perceptions
This blog is probably going to piss at least one person off. If you are the one person… well… I hope you get over it soon. Please feel free to share why you are pissed off and lets work it out. If you cannot do that, I get it.
Cei la vie.
I am going to stand up and say that, although I stand behind Rhianna and that I hope that she makes it through this and grows into a strong woman from this horrible experience, that I am fed up with all of the negative commentary being thrown in Chris Brown’s direction. Yep. I am.
What he did was horrible. Inexcusable. At least, what the media says he did. We have yet to hear both sides of the story. In fact, we have yet to really hear either side. It irritates me to no end that our media feeds on these people like piranha’s who haven’t eaten in months. Not even just these 2… any and all unfortunate situations are blown into these frenzies of rumors and gossip that when boiled down… hold little truth or accuracy to the original situation.
Chris Brown needs help. He needs to go and figure out what it is that triggered him to cross the line and put his hands on a woman. Rhianna or a stranger, he should have never crossed that line. He obviously should already know that you never put your hands on a woman. Unless she is begging you to … uhh … That is entirely other blog. My point is that he should have been taught by his mama to not beat the crap out of a female, no matter how much of a cunt she is being. Not that his mama is responsible for whatever took place between them. He simply should have already known. Honestly, I am pretty sure he already does/did know.I think that in the heat of passion, he made a very bad mistake.
In the heat of passion. How many of us have made a horrible decision in the heat of passion? Be honest. I have. My husband has. I wont even go into the detail of some of the inexcusable things that he and I have done to each other when anger and alcohol and love mix together into this powerful, uncontrollable super-emotion. It has taken over all of my better judgment. It has made me irrational and frankly, really fucking stupid.
The problem with me is that these 2 have not had an opportunity to figure it out. Whatever figuring it out means for them. How in the hell is anyone supposed to have a civil conversation with the one that they love in front of the bazillion flashes of a camera?! How is he supposed to truly show her remorse… if he cannot get a moment alone with her… to look into her eyes and let her see that he knows the mistake he made?
Not all acts of abuse turn into full on abusive relationships. How do I know? Because we have survived. D and I were abusive to each other. We were volatile and hurtful and frankly I dont always understand how we did it… but we did.
I think that it is time that we leave these 2 young people alone to sort out and try to salvage whatever they can from this horrible incident, and at least if nothing else, walk away from it amicably.
/Rant.
What have you done or said in the heat of passion that you regret?
Tags: abuse, argument, chris brown and rhianna, heat of passion, love, paparazzi, piranha, Relationships
February 27th, 2009 at 10:40
I don’t usually say and do things in the heat of any moment. I think long and hard about everything I say. There have probably been two or three times in my entire life that I’ve said or done something that I regretted, most likely said or done to my younger sister.
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 11:17
That is such a great trait.
I do not have a pre-thinking bone in my body.
Jaime Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 11:44
It is, I agree. It’s one of my best I think.
February 27th, 2009 at 10:44
oooo girl!
I totally get it. Like how most of my friends (out of pure love and support) were ready to blame everything on my ex and paint him as “bad”. I felt compelled to defend him-not because I supported what he did but because I am not a fan of uninformed judgement about personal things. I especially hate the new “Rhianna still loves him what is she thinking!!” angle……you don’t hate somebody overnight, and certainly not someone who you care very deeply for who did a fucked up thing.
I hate the paps. I am one of those people who genuinely feels bad for the celebrities who can’t breathe without a crowd showing up, does anyone but me really stop to think about how awful that must be?
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 11:18
I totally do. It makes me sad that a couple cannot get a chance to grow healthily without someone in their face asking a shit ton of questions all the time.
February 27th, 2009 at 10:47
oh and…do I ever answer your question?
too much has been done and said to mention, sadly I have a lot of practice at controlling my impulses when faced with unspeakable awfulness from people I love. But I have been known to be pretty fucking rotten when I feel hurt or backed into a corner.
There is 1 time when I would have been unable to hold it against him if my ex had hit me. He didn’t, which speaks very highly of his character because I truly would have deserved it. Truly.
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 11:18
no. you never do.
February 27th, 2009 at 10:57
I just really don’t care. He beat her, or didn’t…she provoked him, or didn’t…..what difference does it make in MY life…none, absolutely none. One of the reasons I don’t pay attention to all that Hollywood hoopla bullshit anyway. Most actors, singers, songwriters, etc…..(ie most famous people) are nothing but overpaid crybabies!
Yeah, I have my dad’s temper, so there are things I have said that should have gotten me hit, but I have only ever been in one fight…and it was a long time ago!
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 11:22
Well, I am a huge fan of all things celebrities. I am not gonna lie. But there should be a line, and the fact is… our society seems to forget that they are people.
I do agree with the majority of stars being crybabies… I dont think that all of them are though.
February 27th, 2009 at 11:02
I could not have said it better myself. Paparazzi really needs to back the fuck off celebrities. It’s ridiculous.
Yea, I have a bad, bad temper and a bad, bad mouth to go with it. I have hurled some very hateful things at a loved one in the heat of the moment and many years ago I would be quite physically violent as well. It seems I couldn’t help it. I’ve since calmed down with the violence but my mouth is still a wicked weapon I’m trying to learn to control.
Nice to see your bloggy-goodness again.
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 11:41
I am happy to see you here. *grin*
February 27th, 2009 at 11:03
agreeeed
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 11:59
February 27th, 2009 at 11:58
im actually only leaving a comment to say that I think you should write “the entirely different blog” that you mentioned above.
this whole situation is tricky. if I were to say that its none of my business, then that would be like hearing the woman scream next door and turning my back on her. if I were to say that we should all back off chris brown, then that would be like saying she deserved it and it would further victimize the victim. I think they were both on drugs or drink. even though that’s not an excuse, it does hold them both responsible to some extent. his mama couldn’t tell him that it was wrong to hit women because she was too busy getting her own ass beat.
what im left with is that they are none of my concern. they are young. hopefully they grow from this and change their ways. other that that, bring on the “permission to put your hands on me” blog.
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 12:01
I might.
Okay I will.
And, I love that you brought up the point that they probably both hold the responsibility. Not that her provoking him (if that is what happened) is grounds for her to get lumped up… I still think that there are 2 sides to every argument.
Drugs are probably a huge factor. It is not an excuse, but people can do shady things that they normally wouldnt do under the influence.
February 27th, 2009 at 13:17
Um… I agree with you – the media gets into a frenzy and they call it ‘news’ when it is just way too much information about people’s lives that is intrusive and harmful.
However, for me personally, I have 3 rules in a relationship, and one of them is NEVER EVER put your hands on me in anger. And that’s for any relationship. That is a deal breaker.
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 13:34
I expect that there are some out there where it is a deal breaker. That is your right as a human being… And, I agree with you for the most part.
My point is that we should allow him the ability to privately seek help. Just because he made a horrible mistake, doesnt mean that he is a horrible person all around.
I personally do not think that they should get back together. All I am saying is that it is not anyones business to blast them, whatever the decision is.
cherie Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 15:34
i totally agree that they need the time to work it out between them. i agree that this one act does not define anyone. so totally with you on the STFU and mind your business as regards them – it’s between them.
February 27th, 2009 at 13:48
What have you done or said in the heat of passion that you regret?
Nada, I am a typical stubborn Capricorn. I wont bother doing or saying anything in the heat of passion, instead I completely shut people out and I can treat that person like they dont exist and I find that hurts and works a hell of a lot better in most cases
LivingWicked Reply:
February 27th, 2009 at 13:58
yeah you are!
i am glad to have never gotten on your bad side. Heh.
February 27th, 2009 at 15:25
The only times I’ve ever really hit someone was while drunk and trying to be funny.
wait, scratch that, I’ve slapped a few guys – but the motherfuckers were asking for it…
but actually hitting someone I’ve only ever done in jest, even if it was seriously BAD JOKE. I’ve learned the no tequila and no mixing champagne with whiskey lessons.
My instinct when someone I love is mad at me is to either cry and apologize profusely for being such an idiot, or to very calmly and rationaly explain that I won’t be changing whatever caused the fight.
When people come at ME and are angry enough to put hands on me explicitly to cause pain – I walk away with no backwards glances. It’s a dealbreaker for me too. I wouldn’t hold it against them necessarily – they are who they are and they could seek help for all i know, but my trust issues don’t allow for people with that lapse in judgement to be in my life any longer.
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LivingWicked Reply:
March 1st, 2009 at 18:03
I think that we all go through the drunk-i-wanna-fight phase.
You either figure out how to hold your liquor… or quit drinking… you know?
Most people it is, and it should be a deal breaker. I guess for me it depends on a lot more than the action… obviously.
February 27th, 2009 at 18:22
I dont think i have ever said things mid arguement that i shouldnt have,atleast when it comes to relationships. however, ive said many things i shouldnt have mid-argument with my mother when i was younger and even sometimes now. i have gotten beyond pissed at a friend once whom i felt was using me, and told her how i felt. but i try to avoid “heat-of the moment” thrown words…
LivingWicked Reply:
March 1st, 2009 at 18:04
as i get older, i do too.
i try very hard to be rational… not reactional.
February 27th, 2009 at 18:23
never hit anyone tho.. not family. not anyone ive dated.. im a non violent person, no matter how pissed.
February 27th, 2009 at 19:08
I”ve done stupid things drunk. I’ve done stupid things sober. I am lucky to have been forgiven (in most cases) and moved forward. It’s what I would hope for anyone, including this *gasp* kids who are in the limelight.
LivingWicked Reply:
March 1st, 2009 at 18:08
Yeah. I agree.
February 27th, 2009 at 20:19
I just think it’s ridiculous that we have to hear all the details of celebrities’ lives….usually to the point it becomes nauseating. The only thing that should be scrutinized is a PATTERN of abuse. Has it been going on for some time? Is it something that escalated to this point? Or was it a one time occurrence of truly bad judgement in the heat of the moment? Whatever the case may be, it’s not something that needs to be splattered across headlines day after day. It should be between the two of them and whoever else they decide to involve (authorities, family members, friends, etc). You are right in that – how can they have a chance to resolve it if the media won’t back the fuck off?
What he did was wrong. Period. He needs help – to what degree only he (and those closest to him) know. I’m a little sick of hearing about it.
Oh for the love of……I’m sitting here watching tv and guess what’s on? Damn. Oh well, at least it’s not a story about the Octopussy.
LivingWicked Reply:
March 1st, 2009 at 18:08
hahahahahaoctopussyhahahahaha
March 2nd, 2009 at 12:10
I once hit MY boyfriend in high school. Slapped him across the face. Ah, the stupid things we do when we’re young…
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March 2nd, 2009 at 13:09
I wholeheartedly agree with you. Judgements are being made about him based on nothing more than rumors and one picture that may or may not have been photoshopped.
He should never have put his hands on her. What she does and whether she goes back with him is her deal and she shouldn’t be judged for her decision either. I get it that they are public figures and anything they do will be blown up into the limelight but you would figure they would give him some benefit of doubt and her some privacy.
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