A Lesson in Love Bites
Jan 7, 2009 I Forgot to Tag
So, it turns out that my Psych instructor is an asshole AND one of the driest, funniest teachers I have ever had. Like, laugh out loud funny.
I failed my first attempt at this class because it was so fucking boring… and was dreading having to repeat it, due to the fact that I am slowly realizing that if I am not interested in something… I plain tune it the fuck out with something that interests me more… I am happy he is funny and is a probing teacher. He does not give a single answer. He makes you tell him. I like that style. I will absorb way more info this way. It also turns out that the dumbest girl in the class is really dumb. Like, dummmmmmmmmmmb. She is ALSO really fucking funny. To laugh at, and with. To watch my instructor’s reaction and facial expressions when she opens her mouth to give her ‘theory’ on Freud and Watson is comedy within itself. It makes me wish I had a camera so I could share it with you.
So, Yay.
Our first assignment was to Google “The Myth of Psyche” and find, read and print an article out for class discussion. I invite you all to read the article I picked, and then come back and share your thoughts with me. I would love to know how you feel that you relate to the story… and whether or not you knew the story beforehand? Just do it. There is nothing wrong with learning something new.
I learned from reading it how passionate I am about the power of love. How I really am driven by it. That the pain is worth it in the end. That when love is good… it is gooooooooooooooooood. I love warm fuzzies. I love butterflies. I think I am addicted to that feeling. I even get warm when I see a person who I love with all my heart find their soul mate. As if I am the one falling in love. Love keeps us guessing. It makes us whole just as easy as it makes us feel empty. It brings laughs and tears. Sometimes simultaneously.
I am happy to be me and to love the idea of love as much as I do. If I could bite the Jehovah Witness Method, and knock on a bitches door to try and sell them on loves amazing capability… I would do it. Except not so early, because I have been ready to fight a bitch at my door before 10 AM.
I think the world would be a pinker palace if we all got bitten by the love bug at least once, and we accepted it for what it was.
Have you been bitten?
Did you click and read the article? If so, what did you relate to in the story?
And, totally off the subject… but I have been puzzled by this question for the past few days: if a man loves a woman… but the woman was born a man… is the man gay? Would you want to know if the person you fell in love with was born the same sex as you?
Have a great Thursday!
January 8th, 2009 at 03:55
The soul must work for love…but the soul knows the value and purpose of that work. Also, I got a sense that the soul must learn faith for the sake of love to continue on.
I’ve been bitten by love bugs before; but nothing good ever comes from it. Consequently I now live the choice to not fall in love, but simply to love; and I understand the difference between the two.
…. One of my college lit professors once told my class that it would be unwise to marry the one you love; but to instead marry the one who loves you. He explained that the one you love holds a special power and is more likely to abandon you; but the one who loves you will never leave. At the time, I was pissed to hear that; mainly because I was pretty sure that no one would ever love me so basically I just learned that I would indeed live my life completely alone. Not happy news. Eventually, ever so many moons after the fact, I did two things. I finally learned that I actually am worthy of receiving love. I lived just enough of my life to see what he meant.
Kind of a random share there, but something in me wanted to share it.
Heather Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 07:02
But see, that professors logic kinda doesn’t make sense… if everyone only married the ones that loved them… how would anyone get married? Because that other person isn’t following the logic of marry the person that loves you…they are marrying the person they love.
UNLESS we are speaking of love in the action verb tense (agape) and not the eros feeling.
Anne Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 07:12
Yeah, I ran that circle, too. Then, I decided to just stop running.
I think, bottom line, his goal was to plant a seed of logic among the incredibly diverse fields of love. Let’s face a bit of reality. Many people fall in love and ignore the more human and basic aspects of their love objects. They ignore these aspects for a long time then feel surprised and wounded by the realities that have been there all along.
I also think, if you go into a loving relationship with an intention of staying in that loving relationship, you have to make yourself aware of all those aspects that are human…. and when you are aware, you’re also stronger for it… than someone who decides to love blindly…as in being the one who loves more.
Or did I just run a line of bullshit and not realize it?
Anne Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 07:19
Of course, the professor was from a village somewhere in Africa. He said a lot of things that either confused or pissed the hell out of my Western logic.
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 09:21
Heather, I love the way your mind works. I agree with his theory not making sense. Because if you courted someone who didnt love you back it would lack the chemistry it would take to move to the next level in an intimate relationship.
I see that as 2 magnets trying to attract on the opposite sides.
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 09:19
Anne, I love that you shared that. It kinda opened a pathway to who you are. I like learning new things.
And, fuck that Lit Professor.
January 8th, 2009 at 05:29
I’ll read the article after I do the morning alert.
But…well, you know I’ve been bitten by it. And I keep letting it bite me. LOL
Because when it’s good, it’s gooooooooooood.
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LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 09:21
Gross. And yeah, its like you forget that you are in the presence of anything else but that.
PQNation Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 09:27
I was actually talking about the love part, not the sex.
He can be a total sweetheart sometimes.
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LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 09:28
I was talking about the love part as well.
January 8th, 2009 at 06:59
No the man isn’t gay. The woman is a woman on the outside to match her inside (her soul) he fell in love with HER.
I like seeing people make it in love, and I get sad when I see it fall apart. Sad for them. As far as being bit, sometimes I am. I have to pull my head out of my ass… or rather pull my head outside of my contemplation in order to notice, but as a thinker, I get lost in thought. Also, I have been for so long with little more than myself, I have had to realize I need to stop and notice and connect with others, and notice them.
I read the myth of psyche with my daughter a few years ago and I read the article.
I prefer the myth of Diana… the warrior princesses and the huntress goddesses. Venus got on my nerves….
anywho. I have to meet with another advisor this morning so I need to be off.
Love…
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 09:22
Will you find me a good rendition of the Diana myth? I would very much like to read it.
January 8th, 2009 at 10:23
Hehe, yeah. I agree with both of you, his little pearl of wisdom had holes. For the longest time I made myself blow off the moment and dismiss him as a crazy old man.
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 10:36
I am sure that in every piece of swiss cheese wisdom there is some truth.
January 8th, 2009 at 10:30
I love ancient myths. Partly because they were fashioned and believed is what makes them so incredibly beautiful, and the fact that most stories involving ancient gods are used to explain the origins of a very HUMAN emotion is too.
The story of Psyche and Eros is one of my favorites (ok so ALL the love myths and stories are my favorite, don’t judge me!). I loved the article.
The rest of your questions are a little too intense for me to think about right now (i have a Dr appointment in an hour and a half), so I’m just going to think about the article for a while. Maybe later I’ll come back to answer them.
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LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 10:38
I do too. I think I appreciate them now more than I ever did before.
I wont judge you. It isnt like we are talking about Star Wars or anything… *snicker* I love them all as well.
Ok. Come back later.
January 8th, 2009 at 10:56
Courtni……..
I’m not even gonna start today.
Hope the day is a good one!!!!
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 10:58
Oh no…. Whats up, buttercup?
Cassie Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 11:49
NOTHING…and everything all at the same time. Had to sneak a minute.
about your last question….I do not think the guy is gay. I would want to know if the guy I was with used to be a woman. It might not make a difference, but I would like total honesty.
I haven’t had a chance to read the article….I will do so as soon as I can, but I mostly believe that most Psychology is BS.
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 11:54
Ah. I hate it when nothing specific is wrong, yet it feels like everything is wrong. Boo on that.
I would want to know too.
The article is not psychology focused. However you and I (again) will agree to disagree on the psychology bs issue.
Cassie Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 12:33
SEE?
told you there are a great many things we disagree about! lol
love ya!
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 13:55
I love you despite not agreeing on anything.
January 8th, 2009 at 12:28
I had not read the myth of Psyche. It seems like there’s a bit of a MIL story in there… And, if you discussed it in class, I hope the Oedipus complex came up…
That story was strangely satisfying… in ways I can’t really discuss, unfortunately…
So, have I been bitten? Oh, my yes… and how… ;o)
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LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 13:52
It did.
I totally get how and why that is satisfying. It was for me too. On MANY levels.
Yeah. You still have a fat bite.
January 8th, 2009 at 12:29
Yep. I’ve been bitten. You’ve seen it.
Yes, I read the article. Sometimes we go through hell, what seems like it’s impossible, to get the one we love.
I monologued in the bedroom to myself the other night. To a Doug that wasn’t there. Long story short, I told him that I always get what I want. Even if it takes five years for me to get it.
As to your question, I don’t really want to touch that, not even with a 10 foot pole, but I will. Today only. We don’t play with trannies in our chat room. I’ve been in the company of many tranny bashing sessions. So yeah. I’ll just say that I support anyone’s right to choose WHO they are having sex WITH. I just don’t support the changing of your sex to be what you decide you want to be because you think ‘god made a mistake’ or whatever that excuse is. I think it WOULD make that man gay (Tits will not get rid of your XY chromosome) and I think that if that person was a person that I loved, I’d instantly fall OUT of love and never speak to that person again. To me, to not inform someone you love about your change of gender. That’s lying. I don’t tolerate that shit, and personally, I’d be kinda grossed out too. I just would be.
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 13:54
Nail. On. The. Head.
So you do not think that it is possible to feel as if you were born as the wrong gender? Mentally? I am not agreeing or disagreeing… I am just asking.
January 8th, 2009 at 14:25
I think it’s possible to feel just about anything. In general, I’m not sure we are talking about people that are exactly ‘mentally healthy’ here. It is one thing to be gay or lesbian. To be comfortable and accepting of your own body, and to find another person of the same sex desirable and to ‘fall in love’ with a person of your same gender.
It’s a completely DIFFERENT thing to alter your body from what nature (*god* or whoever a person believes) intended it, in a way to that it should NEVER (IMO) be altered. We aren’t talking about boob jobs here. We are talking about cutting *nastyshivers* and inverting THINGS COMPLETELY.
Now, I think it’s important for me to point out that I’m strictly speaking of a person who chooses to become the other sex. I’m NOT talking about…..natural abnormalities here like hermaphrodites. We are talking about someone who is making a conscious choice to become something they are not.
I can’t say what a person *can* think or feel. I just know what my opinion is. (Seriously, I wish I could be a man for the day all the time. I’d probably sit home and jerk off half the day just to see what it was like. But you don’t see me running out to get a cock put on.)
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 14:48
I guess I couldnt say what I think because I was born a woman and I love being a woman… most of the time. And even when I dont, it is more that I hate nature and what it does to us… if that makes sense.
I guess then your thoughts on all constructive surgery is wrong then?
January 8th, 2009 at 16:54
No, I don’t think I’ve been bitten. I’ve been smitten.
I’ve heard this story but I read the article anyways. I liked this version better than some I’ve read in the past.
The man has been tricked into being gay. And to be honest with you, yes, I would want to know. Personally, I’m not sure I would be able to to love the person the same. Not just because the person was really a woman, but because the person had kept it from me. You shouldn’t go into relationships lying your penis or missy off. You have to be straight with these things. (Not the gay kind of straight.)
I’ve figured everyone else out but I’m stuck on Julia. grr! But I have not forgotten.
LivingWicked Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 23:59
Heh. I was stuck on her too for awhile.