I dont wanna grow up!
Oct 19, 2008 Parenting, Sound Off/Debate, Thoughts and Perceptions
Lately I have noticed myself really pondering decisions that need to be made on my part. Things that I would have previously just done childishly, are now on the high road. That sucks. I dont want to always take the bigger person route. Sometimes, I want to be the irresponsible cunt and call a bitch on the carpet, even though I am fully aware of the fact that me making that choice wont do a bit of good.
Ugh. It chaps my ass that I am growing up sometimes. Or that I am grown up. Whatev. Boo.
What bugs me more than that are the people who should be grown up but are not even close. They still go and do selfishly. They still make decisions with no regard of those who are affected. (I dont mean those in the sense of the bitches whos asses need to be called to the carpet… but more the people who are affected by there decisions in their lives)
Just because I want to go to the bar every single night after work and every weekend and get hammered with my co-workers and friends, doesnt mean that I will. Why? Well for one, it is not healthy. But for two, because I have kids. And a husband. I enjoy spending time with them. Sober-like. The thing is, when you cross the line over into responsibility…(i.e. job, kids, spouse… etc) you have to own it. Dont do both. It is unfair to the responsibilities that you have to neglect them for selfish reasons.
Don’t get me wrong, if you are selfish some of the time for good reason… that is only healthy. I am ranting about the people who pawn their kids off as much as possible, or they sign their rights away and run off to another state because they “just cant deal with it”. I am referring to multiple DUI recievers who just cannot give someone their keys, and take other peoples lives into their own hands with little regard. I am even referring to the women with revolving doors of men in front of their kids; setting the example that it is perfectly ok to spread your legs for any Tom, Dick and Harry out there.
If you are reading, and this strikes a cord with you… and, you are possibly offended, first click the back button and scroll down to read my “if thine eye offends thee, pluck it out” and then come back and re-read.
1) I dont give a flying fuck if I offend you.
2) You may need to take this blog and figure out how to be more responsible. Your irresponsibility and my offending you because of it is not my motherfucking problem.
3) Make some changes in your life. Start putting your responsibilities first, or at least think about the choices you make before you make the decision.
In conclusion, fuck you for being a cunt. <– This is a message for specific someones in my life that I am not going to start drama with. If you think it is about you, well maybe you should stop being a dumb guilty cunt and act right for a change. Do the right thing.
Do you have irresponsible people in your life?
Wanna leave them a message about themselves?
Have you ever made irresponsible decisions that you now regret? How did you make it right?
Tags: choices, decisions, drinking, dui, hammered, irresponsibility, neglect, parents, responsibility, revolving door
October 19th, 2008 at 23:35
oh yeah …I have selfish irresponsible cunts in my life but they are pricks…both of my exes. *lol* one can’t stop lying even though it won’t do him any good..and the other won’t own up to the kids he’s brought into this world and visit with them every other weekend. oh yeah ask him for money and he can do that, ask him to spend some time with his kids and he’d rather pack up and go back to Iraq..
bitches…both of them….
love you wicked one~
xoxoxo
way to go..I agree with every word here… <3
LivingWicked Reply:
October 19th, 2008 at 23:39
some men just dont have it.
it really sucks that he was so selfish that he couldnt see that… because, no offense to you, but the kids are totally affected by his lack of presence.
you, can get over it. he is a man, just like every other. but he is their dad. there is only one of those in every kids lives… biologically anyway.
prick.
October 19th, 2008 at 23:47
my sister was probably the most irresponsible person i have ever known. worst of all, she never tried to right any of her wrongs. she just figured people would forgive her on their own. she never thought she needed to put in the effort to fix any of it.
i hope whom ever this blog is about, figures it out, and does all they can to fix things with you. and i hope, if their efforts are genuine, that you will be able to accept their apology.
love you pretty lady
LivingWicked Reply:
October 19th, 2008 at 23:49
Why are people like that? Is it a kink in the brain? Some people are just not genetically made up to make the right decisions. Or to take responsibility for them either.
This blog is not really about anyone in particular… it is more of my observations of others lately.
love you.
zoe Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 02:07
i think it’s that they just don’t care.
so what if they hurt you? so what if they do stupid shit? what does it matter? it doesn’t effect them at that moment, so what’s the big deal?
what’s funny is, they’re always the first to say, well you didn’t do this, or you weren’t here for that.
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 02:19
oh yeah.
quick to blame someone else. EVEN when they are at fault, and the person they are blaming is there every other time.
October 19th, 2008 at 23:59
Hell TO the Yes, I’ve been an irresponsible bowl of Cunty Whore Slore stew. I’m not proud, but I did it once. I made it right by first acknowledging that I was to blame for my own reactions and actions. Then I made the daily choice to never fucking do it again. So far, it’s working.
Ownership has its privileges.
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 00:02
Yes it does. Especially when you learn from said mistake.
We are only human you know… so we are not at all perfect. The difference is those who just keep being assholes despite the consequence.
How was the bath?
Anne Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 00:13
Fucking gorgeous! Thanks for asking.
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 00:17
<-- would have joined.
October 20th, 2008 at 00:04
DEFINITELY know a few people like this..even related to a few of them”
I sometimes act really irresponsible, but I don’t have any one depending on me. I agree that women who CONSTANLY pawn off their kids should have them taken away!!! AND even though I think sucks when parents walk away, sometimes it REALLY is better for a child!!!
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 00:18
i would rather a parent walk away than to be in and out. that is for sure.
you dont have anyone you are responsible for. so yeah, you get a pass.
October 20th, 2008 at 01:20
Um, yes….I am soon to be divorced from one. He can’t own up to his shit at all, which is why I decided that he wasn’t worthy of my time anymore.
And also, most of my family is like that. Which is why I don’t speak to most of them.
That being said, yes I do have my moments of irresponsibility. BUT I own up to my shit, and I take care of my own. I have a full time job that I have kept for 8 years, and I have never once been homeless or without food for my kid.
So I think I got the grown up part down.
)
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 01:29
Doesnt the “grown up” part suck sometimes?
Its like, even if I try to be irresponsible… I cant. Boo.
AmyDame Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 01:38
Yes, it sucks big donkey balls. Like when I wanna go out on a date, but can’t because I don’t have a babysiter. Boo
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 01:42
ooh totally boo.
<– would babysit for you.
October 20th, 2008 at 10:59
My fathers a pretty big jackass but he’s slowly redeeming himself after possibly the biggest fuck up in his history. So, that’s kinda good right? I swear sometimes I feel like the parent to both of them -rolls eyes- . . Err.
I’m pretty proud of myself right now, I screwed things up a while back but now the balls rolling in the right direction, slowly but I’m moving!
=)
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 16:13
Good for you in taking responsibility.
But, do not be their parent anymore. That is absolutely not your responsibility.
October 20th, 2008 at 13:57
I have been a cunty mcbitchface a time or two. occassionally it’s warranted, but not always. I *ALWAYS* apologize when I am wrong and try to make it right.
I like to drink and I am not ready to quit smoking. I like to go see DJs and shows in dirty, smokey dive bars til 2 AM and have sex on the kitchen counters whenever the mood strikes me. It’s one of the reason’s I am not a parent – because I know myself well enough to know that even if I gave all that up, I would resent whatever I had to give it up for -which would be the child. And that just wouldn’t be right.
I WHOLEHEARTEDLY disagree with 90% of my roommate’s parenting decisions and would LOVE to call her to the carpet on them… but it’s not my place and wouldn’t do a bit of good anyway. Sucks.
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 16:15
One day, I am almost positive that you will have a change of heart in relationship to mommyhood.
I promise you that.
I wanna have kitchen counter sex on a whim!
October 20th, 2008 at 14:19
The people that run off and leave their kids will regret it one day, and it will be too late.
I have never been the partier and rarely the irresponsible one. Because I grew up with a mom who partied and worked all the time and put a man before her kids, you kinda develop a defense mechanism in being a control freak. I would love to be irresponsible, just once, but I have a child.
love ya
LivingWicked Reply:
October 20th, 2008 at 16:15
Yeah. It is not feesable to be irresponsible. It just isnt.
October 20th, 2008 at 22:36
While I have no doubt I once had irresponsible moments, I’ve done the mom thing too long to be able to do that much. Shoot, I have to make sure everything is all good before I can ‘let loose’. Nights of drunken revelry with friends? A my house, where there is room for those who have imbibed a tad much to crash, and ALWAYS with an adult sober to drive. just in case. Even when I had a massive infection in my sinus/teeth/jaw and was in insane pain, I refused to take the ‘good pills’ until another adult was home. I would NOT take them while I was alone with the baby. While I am all for some spontenaeity (howinahell is that spelled??) first the loose ends must be tended to. The biggest irresponsible selfish prickcunt (ooo new word!)I ever knew.. I divorced… and now I don’t have to deal with at all, except for the residual legacy he left the children by way of genetics.